Things we should be able to ask a friend…

We all have friends and we value them at different levels depending on the depth of our friendship. Yet, when something warrants it, I don’t see why we could not contact these friends and ask them for help in a tone and intensity that should match that of the relationship we have with them. 

No matter what is the nature of our demand, it will with certainly impose something on our friends and we should be cognizant of that fact, hence adjust the way in which we ask what we wish. It is very hard to guess exactly what our friends will think or feels when they hear our demand, and the best alternative is to fully place ourselves into their very shoes. 

Of course, the more you know them, their typical reactions, their idiosyncrasies and pet-peeves, the better equipped we’ll be able to understand them, the less difficult (I haven’t said “easy”) this will be. The request has to be respectful and more importantly leave enough room for the friends to ignore, deny or just partially fulfill it.

Like with anything involving some guess work, there is no guarantee the demand will succeed or the friendship won’t be affected, but if the request is both reasonable, valid and most importantly is fully warranted, I believe it’s always worth risking it...