Advice to someone dear to me

Live is precious, we only have one short one and it becomes incumbent on all of us to make the very best out of it. What I'm saying is the opposite of letting fate dictate our path in life; sure, fate can sometime play its role when we let it in "small doses," and that's okay because I believe it's also part of the “natural order of things...”

So, the first thing I wanted to say is start by finding out what you really want for yourself and what you most sincere dreams are at the stage you're in. We all have dreams that are dear to us and they don't have to look and feel like the next guy's. They are very much ours and are beyond judgment. There is no right, no wrong, there's just what's good for us. Finding out who we are, what our true values are, what makes us really excited, productive and happy is probably the most difficult project in anyone's life, but it is the most important, because if we are able to lay it down in front of our eyes it become our lifetime dashboard.

Can that vision change or evolve over time? You bet, it's our guiding light for the moment but it's not carved in stone. It follows our development and should evolve as we do. This means, that once you define what's dearest to your life, what makes you happy, comfortable, in touch with your own self and in harmony with what you want, you're set to go. You only have to keep that vision current and it becomes your guiding light. Whatever you find out may transcend the way you used to look at your career, your personal life and your relations to others. It takes courage to interrogate yourself, change your paradigms, discover your own answers, accept them as being part of you and resolve to change course if you have to. I'm totally convinced that if you want something really badly you'll always find a way to make it happen as long as you're willing to pay the price for it.

There are also the good and bad experiences. We agree that it's good to stay away from the bad ones and try – as much as possible – to reproduce circumstances that will bring positive and fulfilling situations. We should however remain open with the unknown and take a chance if a good outcome seems likely to come out.

No matter what your age is, what your obligations are or how seemingly tangled, puzzling or complex your life appears to be, not only you ought to start that process, but you owe it to yourself.